Whether you've had first hand experience with them, if you've heard of them through shows and films like Fifty Shades of Grey, or simply have no idea what I'm going on about, floggers and whips are fantastic tools in the realm of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism). They vary widely in construction, usage, and the sensations they provide. This guide aims to offer a comprehensive overview, from the types and materials to safety considerations and techniques.
Floggers vs. Whips
Now while the two terms have been prevalently used interchangeably, they are definitely not the same. Whips are the most intense form of impact play and are recommended for experienced individuals. They consist of a short handle with a single, long strand that can be made of various materials. Typically, there is a a "popper" at the end which is a small piece that creates a cracking sound. From bullwhips to snakewhips, there is a lot of exploration to be done with these.
For floggers, they are structured with a long and sturdy handle made by either wood, metal, or plastic, and come with multiple strands known as falls that extend from the handle. Mostly, floggers have between 20 to 40 falls, and the more of these indicate more thud than sharpness. These come in the form of leather, suede, rubber, or synthetic materials. Leather floggers differ greatly depending on the width of the falls, so they can provide either a light grazing sensation or a heavy thud. Suede floggers are much softer than leather and are ideal for newbies and those with sensitive skin. Synthetic and rubber floggers are a lot more intense and durable, and not recommended for beginners.
Choosing the Right Tool
To choose the perfect flogger ideal for you, consider the following:
1. Experience Level
Beginners should start with suede or softer leather floggers.
Intermediate users may explore heavier leather or synthetic materials.
Advanced users can handle rubber floggers or bullwhips.
2. Desired Sensation
Thuddy: Achieved with heavier, thicker falls or whips.
Stingy: Achieved with thinner, lighter falls or whips.
3. Physical Strength and Dexterity
Larger, heavier floggers require more strength and control.
Smaller, lighter whips are easier to maneuver but require precision.
Safety Considerations
As always, when it comes to anything related with others (and ourselves really), we have to account for consent and safety. Primarily, ensure that you establish clear boundries with safe words, and consistently check in with your partner during the session. Consider their verbal responses and non-verbal responses, and be cautious of those bounds. When it comes to anatomy, avoid areas such as the kidneys (located in the mid-back), spine, faces, and joints, and consider any mobility ailments your partner may have. Aim for fleshy areas such as the buttocks, thighs, and back.
Don't jump right into using floggers and whips either– warm-up the skin with lighter strokes and massages before progressing to avoid injury to muscles. Additionally, make sure the environment is safe and free of obstructions.
Techniques and Tips
For basic strokes, two methods are typically used. The Figure Eight works exactly as it sounds and is a continuous motion that creates a rhythmic impact. Next is the overhand and underhand method which corresponds to how the handle is held, which allows for varied sensations. For advanced individuals, the Florentine uses two floggers simultaneously in a rhythmic pattern. Wrapping allows the falls to wrap around the body for a more intense impact.
Aftercare
Afterwards, physically apply lotions or aloe vera to the impacted areas and ensure both partners rehydrate. Emotionally, offer comfort, reassurance, and maintain open communication. Spend time together to reconnect and discuss the experience.
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